Truth and Tips Q&A #1 explained how fear was the prime driver of our need to control others and outcomes. Q&A #2 is a logical follow up: Q:How can we reduce our fears so that we will control less? (Part One) A: Effectively reducing our...
The need to reign in our unhealthy compulsion to control is thus more important than ever, whether we are a so-called “control freak,” a micro-manager, a nitpicker, or simply someone who controls excessively. Toward that end, I will be sharing...
(8th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus”) Overcoming denial is a prerequisite to acceptance. You can’t accept “what is” when you are unaware, can’t, or refuse to “see” the underlying reality of the situation. This is...
(7th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus”) The other day as I was sorting through some books that had accumulated on my small bedside table, I came across a “dream catcher” journal that someone had given...
Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus (6th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“) I’ve always struggled with being too judgmental of others. I’ve worked a lot on being less so, but it takes constant...
(5th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“) I don’t know about you, but its easy for me to fall into a “lull” and “low” during The Time of Coronavirus. Every day seems the same, yet I feel different almost every...
(4th in an ongoing series on Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus) I’ve often talked and written about the importance of moderating our expectations if we wish to control less and accept more. High expectations can hurt us in a lot of...
(Second in an ongoing series, “Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus” The many uncertainties and unknowns of the coronavirus pandemic have heightened our fears. So many of us are engulfed in never ending “what ifs” and “what might happens”–...
“These are Times that Try Men’s Souls” In December 1776 General George Washington and his troops were facing imminent defeat, having been driven out of New York and chased across New Jersey by the British. Washington had been deserted by...
The Serenity Prayer* has really helped me in dealing with the severe impact of the coronavirus and I hope it can help you as well. Every day it becomes more clear how powerless—and helpless–we are over so many aspects of the Covid-19...
In a recent post, I explained how procrastination is a control based avoidance mechanism that carries potentially severe consequences. Withdrawal is another such mechanism that can be even more detrimental to our well-being. At times we all...
The Holidays are upon us! As beautiful as this season is with decorations, holiday songs, and gift giving, it also comes with a lot of stress , anxiety, apprehension and agitation. Getting the expensive item on sale, standing in lines, and...
