Like most compulsive controllers, I was always driven to succeed. I graduated from UCLA with honors in business administration and finished in the top 5 percent of my class at the UCLA School of Law.
While still in my twenties, I became a real estate instructor in the UCLA Extension Program and in my thirties, I published a critically acclaimed, best-selling professional book, How to Invest in Real Estate Syndicates.
Financial success came early as well. Celebrities and other wealthy people entrusted me with large sums to invest on their behalf. By my mid-thirties I could afford to live in the exclusive Old Bel Air section of Los Angeles.
But for all my achievements and success, I had no sense of inner peace and serenity. How could I? I was imprisoned by my fears, anger and anxieties—all bedfellows of controllers–and thus not open to the beauty all around me.
After suffering a series of traumatic events and financial setbacks that I could not control—no matter how hard I tried—I finally began a new life journey based on letting go of control and accepting people and things as they are. I began surrendering more to the ups and downs and twists and turns of life, instead of resisting them and trying to control people and events.
Over many years, I learned effective tools and strategies for letting go of control and accepting “what is” with loved ones, family, friends—and foes–as well as in creative endeavors, setbacks, aging, and the workplace. In the process, I became an artist, a published poet, a successful businessman, a ranked seniors tournament tennis player, a happily married man, and a much wiser parent—all while cutting my work time by more than half.
The journey continues with the publication next year of my new book, Way of the Wave: Nature’s Model for Navigating Life’s Currents, which explains how to overcome the barriers to going with the flow in our different life currents.
Through losing control and practicing acceptance, I have found a different and more profound success—an internal, core sense of well-being. It is my hope and wish that you, too, can experience these blessings and it is my desire to be of assistance in that journey.
Please join me in “Helping Make Acceptance Go Viral!”