In this blog and in Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Contol Hurts Us and How to Let It Go, I discuss decontrol tools and strategies that reduce the compulsion or need to control in vital areas of our lives, such as family and parenting, love and romance, creative endeavors, friendships, and work.
One way that many people find very helpful in letting go of control is by having “faith” in the midst of great challenges and trying circumstances.
Many express their faith through formal religious practices, traditions and rituals. Others express theirs in spiritual ways not a part of formal religious beliefs and practices. Some people meditate, for example. Those in 12 Step programs turn to a Higher Power.
To me, a core belief in all forms and manners of expressing or practicing faith is that we are essentially powerless over (and cannot control) so many aspects of our lives, whether it be a life threatening illness, unhealthy traits that our children develop, sudden financial reversals, or the disparaging remarks made by others.
The acceptance of this “truth” is an integral part of letting go of control.
Yet, many of us struggle mightily and at great personal costs—anxiety, worry, resentment, conflict, turmoil, and the like—before we finally learn to accept this truth.
Those that have faith and trust that someone or something—be it a Divine Being or Presence, Higher Power or the “Universe”—will stand by and take of them (and their situation or predicament) makes it much easier for them to accept their powerlessness and cease trying to control that which can’t be controlled.
Therein, I believe, lies the inherent connection between faith and control.
Having faith makes it easier for many people to let go of control. And letting go of control encourages them to have faith.
Please share your thoughts, beliefs and experiences about the connection between faith and control.
In the meantime, remember to,
Let It Go–and Accept “What Is!”
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