As the author of Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I am sometimes asked what I mean by “serenity.”
I realize that serenity means different things to different people. For many, it means peace and tranquility. For others, it means harmony. I’ve also heard some people express that it simply means being comfortable in their “own skin.”
As I use it in my book and writings, I intend it to mean all these things—and more. It is an expansive term; one that viscerally evokes a core sense of “well being” and freedom and contentment.
“Serenity” thus encompasses all of these positive feelings and states of being.
An instrumental way in which we can have greater serenity in our lives is by giving up control—particularly those types and forms of control triggered by our strong emotions such as fear, anxiety, resentment and anger.
More specifically, losing control leads to conditions that result in greater serenity. For example, it reduces stress and anxiety; lessens our worries; fosters intimacy and bonds with loved ones, family and friends; expands our creative horizons; and, increases efficiency and productivity–and enjoyment–at work.
That is why so much of my writings in this blog, as well as in my book, is devoted to exploring methods and ways (“decontrol tools”) in which we can lose control in such vital areas of our lives as parenting, family, intimate relations, friendships, work and creative endeavors. Even the short cue at the end of my posts is one such way.
Let It Go!