(5th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“) I don’t know about you, but its easy for me to fall into a “lull” and “low” during The Time of Coronavirus. Every day seems the same, yet I feel different almost every...
High expectations of others plant the seeds for disappointment and resentment. Whether assertive or subtle, expecting too much of others pressures them to act and be, as we want them to. At its core, it is our attempt to control or change...
There’s a good reason why dogs are considered “man’s best friend.” They offer us unconditional acceptance! Even when we’re mad at them or mistreat them, they accept us–often with a wagging tale! Now with...
Do you realize that you should be letting go of control, say with your children or partner, or at work, but find it real hard to do? If so, asking yourself these basic, but very effective, decontrol questions will make it much easier...
“Are Alpha Males Healthy?” is the lead article in the Personal Journal section of the September 13 Wall Street Journal. Alphas are “ambitious, assertive, confident and competitive,” says psychiatrist T.Byram Karasu in the article—all...
In these frantic, unpredictable and financially volatile times, the need for close, supportive bonds with family, friends and loved ones becomes more important than ever. It provides us with a much needed emotional anchor. Ironically...
For me, composing poems encompasses letting go of control, particularly in the sense of not overthinking and overanalyzing them. I begin with my intention and then jot down words and phrases that evoke that intention, not really concerning myself...
In my media interviews with respect to the recent publication of Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go, interviewers and listeners alike often relate their considerable angst and discomfort...
The workplace is where humanity’s primal drive for sustenance and survival is most prominently played out. As such, it is a hotbed for costly control practices. Some graciously refer to the compulsion to control at work as just “trying...
As the author of Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I am sometimes asked what I mean by “serenity.” I realize that serenity means different things to different people. For many, it means peace and tranquility. For others, it means...
We often hear people talk about “going with the flow” when discussing how they intend to deal with important issues and challenges in their lives. I think for most, that means they wish to engage matters as they naturally arise, without...
The intensity of our controlling actions impairs our vision. It puts “blinders” on us and we are unable to recognize the opportunities and make the choices that would improve our lives emotionally, spiritually, creatively, and financially. The...
