The Love Enabler Test!

The Love Enabler Test!

Are You a Love Enabler?  It’s a less apparent form of love control.   In fact, you may not be aware that you are one or how much it can impact your love bond. Love Enabling When we continually give too much or do too much for our loved...

Truths and Tips #8: Letting Go of Control

Truths and Tips #8: Letting Go of Control

Q:  Romantic relationships can be stressful, especially when we try to “improve” or change our partner’s behavior and habits.  How can accepting our loved one for who they are enhance our love bond? A: I don’t think any of us like being told by...

Improving the Love Flow Through Acceptance

Improving the Love Flow Through Acceptance

Accepting our loved ones for who, what, and how they are leads to greater trust and deeper bonds, two of the major gifts of acceptance I write about in The Gifts of Acceptance.   Simply put, it improves the love flow. Not so simple, however, is...

Letting Go of Control Truths

Letting Go of Control Truths

“Let go of control. You never had it in the first place!” Most control freaks do not agree with the above statement. What about you? Not sure you agree? Then consider this: “If you always do what you always did, you always get what you...

Are You a Love Controller?

Are You a Love Controller?

Are you or your loved one a love controller? If so, this can be very hard on the relationship. Love control obstructs the romantic flow.  It forces the action, rather than allowing the love currents to unfold naturally so that people can relax...

Three Key Ways Letting Go of Control Improves Your Life

Three Key Ways Letting Go of Control Improves Your Life

When we control excessively we are attempting to alter life’s moving currents and rhythm. When we do this, we are unable to see options and make choices that would significantly our lives emotionally, spiritually, creatively, and financially. We...

Should You Tell Your Loved One About Your Past Addiction?

Should You Tell Your Loved One About Your Past Addiction?

  Guest Post by Anne Southern Over 20 million Americans struggle with some form of substance addiction, whether to drugs or alcohol (this does not include the many million more who are also addicted to tobacco) Despite this huge body of people...

Let the Love FLow on Valentine’s Day

Let the Love FLow on Valentine’s Day

If you don’t control, you can flow–and that’s true with love as well.    So let go of love control this month and let the love flow!  For some guidance on how to do this, read my previous post “Enhance Your...

Two Keys to Accepting Your Loved One As They Are

Two Keys to Accepting Your Loved One As They Are

I’ve previously shared two keys to enhancing the love flow on Valentine’s Day: *Accepting your love one as they are, and *Moderating the expectations you have of them. In this post I would like to expand on the importance of “love acceptance” and...

Alan Watts and Letting Go of Love Control

Alan Watts and Letting Go of Love Control

I wrote an article for my web site entitled “Letting Go of Love Control Improves the Love Flow,” in which I expressed how letting go of love control brings greater intimacy and a more vibrant love flow, and then offered suggestions on how to let...

Are You a Love Enabler?

Are You a Love Enabler?

Last Valentine’s day I wrote about the importance of letting go of love control and offered a few suggestions on how to do it. Love control comes in many forms.  When you advise your loved one about what he or she should do or how to be, you are...