Avoiding Avoidance

Avoiding Avoidance

                         Many of us have little inkling about how much, how often, and in what ways we try to control people and things around us—and how it harms us.  Controlling conduct is not always assertive or overt.   It is often subtle and...

10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

Many people call them control freaks.  Some call them controllers.  Others refer to them as nitpickers and micromanagers.  Whatever you call them, they all have one clear thing in common: The Need to Control. Hence, the subtitle of my book Losing...

Control Freak Bosses Are Poor Managers

Control Freak Bosses Are Poor Managers

The compulsion to control at work can be so strong that we rarely stop to consider how much it harms us, our employees, and of course, our business. This is particularly true with respect to micro-managers, nit-pickers, and other control...

Leaders Need to Know When to Relinquish Control

Leaders Need to Know When to Relinquish Control

One of the main purposes of this blog is to demonstrate the harms of excessive control in all areas of our lives, the benefits of letting go of control and how to do it.   In that regard, my posts (and book) examine the many facets of the control...

How Confidence Helps Tame Control Freaks

How Confidence Helps Tame Control Freaks

In my radio interviews following the publication of Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I am frequently asked for advice on how people can deal with the control freaks in their lives, whether it be a controlling spouse at home or a control freak...

Control Freaks Suffer, Too—And You Can Help Them!

Control Freaks Suffer, Too—And You Can Help Them!

  In my media interviews with respect to the recent publication of Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go, interviewers and listeners alike often relate their considerable angst and discomfort...

Work Control: Five Ways It Harms You and How to Avoid It

  The workplace is where humanity’s primal drive for sustenance and survival is most prominently played out.   As such, it is a hotbed for costly control practices.  Some graciously refer to the compulsion to control at work as just “trying...

Domineering Business Control Invites Conflict

Domineering Business Control Invites Conflict

The workplace is where humanity’s primal drive for sustenance and survival is most prominently played out.  As such, it is a hot bed for control driven behavior and practices.  Some graciously refer to this compulsion to control at work as just...