There are vital links or connections between acceptance, expectations, and the need to control. That’s why they are such an integral part of the discourse on this blog and in my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control...
In these highly divisive, hectic, and chaotic times, accepting others as they are is more vital than ever to our overall well being and contentment. (See my post, “Five Good Reasons for Accepting People as They Are”). This is confirmed by...
I’ve previously shared two keys to enhancing the love flow on Valentine’s Day: *Accepting your love one as they are, and *Moderating the expectations you have of them. In this post I would like to expand on the importance of “love acceptance” and...
Because of their importance to my serenity, I annually review and update my intentions for letting go of control. Such intentions are highly effective in reducing our need or compulsion to control others and things. Below are my intentions for...
Sports stars seem to easily recognize the types of controlling actions that severely undermine peak performance.Adrian Gonzalez, a prolific home run hitter, is the most recent athlete to do so. The Los Angeles Dodgers paid a huge amount ($126...
I wrote an article for my web site entitled “Letting Go of Love Control Improves the Love Flow,” in which I expressed how letting go of love control brings greater intimacy and a more vibrant love flow, and then offered suggestions on how to let...
Several months ago I offered some decontrol suggestions to Albert Pujols on how he could come out of the horrendous batting slump he was mired in following his signing a record breaking contract with the Los Angeles Angels. At the time, he was...
School and education is particularly rife with parental control, whether it’s parents choosing their children’s classes, offering too much advice or help with homework, or constantly “coming to the rescue.” I have previously shared my strong...
One of the main purposes of this blog is to demonstrate the harms of excessive control in all areas of our lives, the benefits of letting go of control and how to do it. In that regard, my posts (and book) examine the many facets of the control...
I think most people (myself included) take vacations to take a break from their busy, and at times hectic and stressful lives. Vacations give us the opportunity to spend unhurried quality time with friends and family, or just simply to lay...
Poor Albert Pujols. All those high expectations from fans, the owner–and himself. And why not? A $240 million dollar contract can drum up a lot of expectations. Is there thus any wonder why Albert is slumping so terribly? Undue...
High expectations of others plant the seeds for disappointment and resentment. Whether assertive or subtle, expecting too much of others pressures them to act and be, as we want them to. At its core, it is our attempt to control or change...
