An underlying theme of my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity, is that acceptance is fundamental to reducing our need to control. Readers agree. The most highlighted sentence of Amazon’s best selling eBook version is: “The more we accept...
Denial is usually associated with rejecting or denying a certain state of affairs, or thinking or believing that things “aren’t so.” However, denial really encompasses much more than that; wishful thinking, turning a blind eye, and withdrawal...
There is an integral relationship between accepting life and people as they are, and enjoying a life with greater serenity. Acceptance leads to new choices, discoveries and possibilities—many unexpected—as well as reduced stress, worry, and...
PART ONE In speaking with people about their acceptance stories for the new book I’m writing, The Blessings of Acceptance, I am often asked “why should I accept the unacceptable?” My short response is, “You’ve already answered that by your...
Most control freaks live a life filled with grand illusions and myths about the efficacy of control. Here are five common myths that control freaks harbor: Control Freaks Myth #1: The power to significantly change others. Truth: The only person...
My writing of Losing Control, Finding Serenity was primarily within the context of my struggles and personal recovery from the compulsive need to control most things and people in my life– particularly those closest to me—and the resulting...
The compulsion to control at work can be so strong that we rarely stop to consider how much it harms us, our employees, and of course, our business. This is particularly true with respect to micro-managers, nit-pickers, and other control...
When we control excessively we are attempting to alter life’s moving currents and rhythm. When we do this, we are unable to see options and make choices that would significantly our lives emotionally, spiritually, creatively, and financially. We...
Many parents are frustrated and distressed because they feel they have lost control over their children. Things have just gotten too out of hand–for some, alarmingly so. The natural inclination for such parents is to become more controlling in...
Guest Post by Anne Southern Over 20 million Americans struggle with some form of substance addiction, whether to drugs or alcohol (this does not include the many million more who are also addicted to tobacco) Despite this huge body of people...
As we begin a year of great uncertainty, and for many, great fear and anxiety, it is important to consider what we can do to bring greater peace and serenity into our lives and those we love. For me, that begins with striving to accept people...
The current divisive political climate becomes even more divisive when the political choices of our loved ones are contrary to our own. For example, what if you are for Clinton, and they are for Trump? If you are for gun control, and they...
