Letting Go of Control Truths

Letting Go of Control Truths

“Let go of control. You never had it in the first place!” Most control freaks do not agree with the above statement. What about you? Not sure you agree? Then consider this: “If you always do what you always did, you always get what you...

5 Ways High Expectations Hurt You

In Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I explain how high expectations are a driving force behind our need to control our loved ones, children, friends and others. High expectations of others pressure them to do and be what we want, or what we feel...

5 Keys to Practicing “Acceptance”

An underlying theme of my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity, is that acceptance is fundamental to reducing our need to control. Readers agree. The most highlighted sentence of Amazon’s best selling eBook version is: “The more we accept...

An Essential Key to Avoiding Holiday Stress

It’s during this time of year that we often hear the proverbial, “I just dread the holidays.” I previously shared how this “dread” and its associated stress and anxiety can be lessened by letting go of control, as well as offering some useful...

Acceptance, Expectations, and Control: Vital Links

There are vital links or connections between acceptance, expectations, and the need to control.   That’s why they are such an integral part of the discourse on this blog and in my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control...

Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2013

Serenity Because of their importance to my serenity, I annually review and update my intentions for letting go of control.  Such intentions are highly effective in reducing our need or compulsion to control others and things.   Below are my...

Adrian Gonzalez Knows How to Let Go of Control for Peak Performance

Sports stars seem to easily recognize the types of controlling actions that severely undermine peak performance. Adrian Gonzalez, a prolific home run hitter, is the most recent athlete to do so. The Los Angeles Dodgers paid a huge amount ($126...

Albert Pujols Lets Go of Control and Loses his Slump!

Several months ago I offered some decontrol suggestions to Albert Pujols on how he could come out of the horrendous batting slump he was mired in following his signing a record breaking contract with the Los Angeles Angels. At the time, he was...

How to Lower Family Expectations

High expectations of others plant the seeds for disappointment and resentment. Whether assertive or subtle, expecting too much of others pressures them to act and be, as we want them to. At its core, it is our attempt to control or change...

Tips for Letting Go of High Expectations

In my last post I shared the intentions for 2012 that I felt would allow me to let go of more control in my life.  A key one was  “moderate my expectations.”  As I have mentioned before, unrealistic expectations propel us to try to control vital...

Intentions For Letting Go of Control

Floating Intentions The beginning of the year is an ideal time to form your intentions for letting go of control.   Such intentions are a simple, yet highly effective way in which to remove the urge to want to control people and things.   Here...

Tips for Letting Go of Stress During the Holidays

The holiday season is a time of great stress and anxiety for most people.   We are forced to plod through heavy traffic, wade through crowded stores with too few sales clerks, incur unwanted financial burdens, and attend family gatherings fraught...