(Second in an ongoing series, “Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus” The many uncertainties and unknowns of the coronavirus pandemic have heightened our fears. So many of us are engulfed in never ending “what ifs” and “what might happens”–...
There are formidable challenges to accepting people and things as they are. In the Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing People and Things as They Are I explore in depth how to overcome the main obstacles to practicing acceptance. As part of my...
In Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go and on this blog I write about how to deal with control freaks (and excessive controllers) and what’s behind their often abusive behavior. Thomas J...
In my radio interviews following the publication of Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I am frequently asked for advice on how people can deal with the control freaks in their lives, whether it be a controlling spouse at home or a control freak...
Do you realize that you should be letting go of control, say with your children or partner, or at work, but find it real hard to do? If so, asking yourself these basic, but very effective, decontrol questions will make it much easier...
In my media interviews with respect to the recent publication of Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go, interviewers and listeners alike often relate their considerable angst and discomfort...
The workplace is where humanity’s primal drive for sustenance and survival is most prominently played out. As such, it is a hotbed for costly control practices. Some graciously refer to the compulsion to control at work as just “trying...
Many of my posts explore the remarkable and often unexpected benefits that come to us when we are able to let go of control–even partially– in such vital areas of our lives as parenting, intimate relations, family and friends, at work...
Letting go of the pain and sorrow from breaking up with loved ones is difficult for most people. Not only do we grieve our loss, but we also find ourselves shackled by our fears and unable to move on with our lives. One young man (I’ll call him...
When I recently contacted a dear friend from much earlier days in my life to tell her about the publication of Losing Control, Finding Serenity, the book’s notion of our constant need to control struck a very strong chord in her. After...
