My Free Gift To You, “Acceptance In The Time Of COVID-19”

control freaksHow often do you find yourself wondering, “where has all the time gone today—or this week?” I wonder about that fairly often and my guess is that most people do as well—and it’s an issue that constantly frustrates control freaks. There is no question (in my mind, at least) that our ever-complex, technology driven world absorbs bundles of our time—ironically, often through the use of “time-saving”  devices such as texting, googling, using engaging apps, and the like.  Similarly, most time-saving strategies simply make room for us to do more things with our time, rather than relieving time related stress and pressure.

Consequently, we always feel woefully short of time. Leslie Perlow of the Harvard School of Business has aptly coined the phrase “time famine” to describe this time quandary.

There is another (and easily overlooked) reason that many of us find ourselves short of time: We are too controlling.

Losing Control, Finding Time

Constantly trying to control or change others or things takes inordinate amounts of time.

Think about it for a moment.  All the time and effort you put into fruitless control efforts deprive you from doing many of the things you would like to do, but don’t have the time to do!

As I have repeatedly expressed in this blog and in Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go (an Amazon Best Seller now for 5 years in a row), people will truly change only when they are ready and willing to do so, and all our advising, pressuring, pleading, etc., is for naught.

Simply put, we are powerless over changing others—at least in any meaningful way.

So why not lose control and find more time—a lot more! In past posts I shared some effective decontrol tools.

Here’s for changing your time famine to a time surplus! Click through to learn more about control freaks and how to solve your own issues with detachment.

In the meantime, remember to

Let It Go!



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  • Victor Posted May 22, 2014 3:49 pm

    I believe what you are saying about trying to control and change people. I will forward your article and recommend this book in hopes that it influences people to be more free and understanding.

    • Daniel A. Miller Posted May 23, 2014 3:07 pm

      Thank you, Victor. Much appreciated.

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