Gratitude is a common subject of many recovery books and articles. Below is an article about gratitude I wrote that was recently published in Tiny Buddha, a leading personal growth and inspiration blog. “Gratitude is not only the greatest...
Fundamentally, acceptance is a choice we make—but the gift of acceptance is one we all can benefit from. You can choose to accept people and circumstances as they are, or not. In my forthcoming book, The Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing Life as It...
Many people sincerely wish to stop trying to control their important relationships and practice acceptance, but find it very difficult to do so. They realize that it would be better for others, as well as themselves. It may be a mother who knows...
When my doctor checked my pulse and blood pressure at a recent physical exam, my pulse was only 47—well below the 60-80 norm—and my blood pressure was a healthy 98/68. Admittedly, I exercise regularly, but leaving the doctor’s office I wondered...
“Let go of control. You never had it in the first place!” Most control freaks do not agree with the above statement. What about you? Not sure you agree? Then consider this: “If you always do what you always did, you always get what you...
When we are struggling in coping with a troubling issue, we basically have two choices: We can accept the underlying reality of the situation, or we can deny it. It’s your choice to make! I strongly encourage people to choose acceptance...
Are you or your loved one a love controller? If so, this can be very hard on the relationship. Love control obstructs the romantic flow. It forces the action, rather than allowing the love currents to unfold naturally so that people can relax...
Reading the above title, you may be thinking, “Why should I accept people who are trying to harm or cause me trouble? They are the last people I would want to accept!” I know I used to feel that way, especially before starting my personal...
The lives of addicts often reel out of control, especially for those who have not started down the path to personal recovery. Many feel ashamed and powerless over their addiction and many things in their lives. To counter their anxiety and...
Control freaks beware—those controlling tendencies can create misery in your life. A friend recently shared, “The more I try to control things in my life, the more miserable I become. In fact, the misery in my life is directly proportional to...
Many people call them control freaks. Some call them controllers. Others refer to them as nitpickers and micromanagers. Whatever you call them, they all have one clear thing in common: The Need to Control. Hence, the subtitle of my book Losing...
In Losing Control, Finding Serenity I explain how high expectations are a driving force behind our need to control our loved ones, children, friends and others. High expectations of others pressure them to do and be what we want, or what we feel...
