Are You a Love Controller?

Are you or your loved one a love controller? If so, this can be very hard on the relationship. Love control obstructs the romantic flow.  It forces the action, rather than allowing the love currents to unfold naturally so that people can relax...

10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

image by Sara Hasse Many people call them control freaks.  Some call them controllers.  Others refer to them as nitpickers and micromanagers.  Whatever you call them, they all have one clear thing in common: The Need to Control. Hence, the...

Do Your Loved One’s Political Views Anger You?

The current divisive political climate becomes even more divisive when the political choices of our loved ones are contrary to our own.   For example, what if you are for Clinton, and they are for Trump?  If you are for gun control, and they...

Let the Love FLow on Valentine’s Day

If you don’t control, you can flow–and that’s true with love as well.    So let go of love control this month and let the love flow!  For some guidance on how to do this, read my previous post “Enhance Your...

Two Keys to Accepting Your Love One As They Are

I’ve previously shared two keys to enhancing the love flow on Valentine’s Day: *Accepting your love one as they are, and *Moderating the expectations you have of them. In this post I would like to expand on the importance of “love acceptance”...

Alan Watts and Letting Go of Love Control

I wrote an article for my web site entitled “Letting Go of Love Control Improves the Love Flow,” in which I expressed how letting go of love control brings greater intimacy and a more vibrant love flow, and then offered suggestions on how to let...

Are You a Love Enabler?

Last Valentine’s day I wrote about the importance of letting go of love control and offered a few suggestions on how to do it. Love control comes in many forms.  When you advise your loved one about what he or she should do or how to be, you are...

Writing Love Poems by Letting Go of Control

For me, composing poems encompasses letting go of control, particularly in the sense of not overthinking and overanalyzing them. I begin with my intention and then jot down words and phrases that evoke that intention, not really concerning...

Let Go of Control and Be Happy!

Many of my posts explore the remarkable and often unexpected benefits that come to us when we are able to let go of control–even partially– in such vital areas of our lives as parenting, intimate relations, family and friends, at work...