Albert Pujols Lets Go of Control and Loses his Slump!

Several months ago I offered some decontrol suggestions to Albert Pujols on how he could come out of the horrendous batting slump he was mired in following his signing a record breaking contract with the Los Angeles Angels. At the time, he was...

Is This Tiger Mom Out of Control?

The December 24 Books section of the Wall Street Journal features an article by Amy Chua, aka Tiger Mom, in which Ms. Chua attempts to justify her domineering parenting techniques as she continues to back peddle from the widespread criticism...

Five Good Reasons For Accepting People As They Are

Acceptance There’s a good reason why dogs are considered “man’s best friend.”   They offer us unconditional acceptance! Even when we’re mad at them or mistreat them, they accept us–often with a wagging...

Easy Tips for Letting Go of Control

Do you realize that you should be letting go of control, say with your children or partner, or at work, but find it real hard to do? If so, asking yourself these basic, but very effective, decontrol questions will make it much easier: “How...

Control Freaks Suffer, Too—And You Can Help Them!

In my media interviews with respect to the recent publication of Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go, interviewers and listeners alike often relate their considerable angst and discomfort from...

Work Control: Five Ways It Harms You and How to Avoid It

The workplace is where humanity’s primal drive for sustenance and survival is most prominently played out.   As such, it is a hotbed for costly control practices.  Some graciously refer to the compulsion to control at work as just “trying to get...

Finding Serenity

As the author of Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I am sometimes asked what I mean by “serenity.” I realize that serenity means different things to different people.    For many, it means peace and tranquility.   For others, it means...

Losing Control, Finding Flow

We often hear people talk about “going with the flow” when discussing  how they intend to deal with important issues and challenges in their lives.   I think for most, that means they wish to engage matters as they naturally arise, without...

Let Go of Control and Be Happy!

Many of my posts explore the remarkable and often unexpected benefits that come to us when we are able to let go of control–even partially– in such vital areas of our lives as parenting, intimate relations, family and friends, at work...

Letting Go of Love Fears

Letting go of the pain and sorrow from breaking up with loved ones is difficult for most people.   Not only do we grieve our loss, but we also find ourselves shackled by our fears and unable to move on with our lives. One young man (I’ll call him...

Gain Control by Losing Control

Most people think they need to control people and events in order to get what they want, or think they want. This is quite understandable when you consider the fact that from the time we were young children we have been immersed in a control...

Let Go of Your Blinders

The intensity of our controlling actions impairs our vision.   It puts “blinders” on us and we are unable to recognize the opportunities and make the choices that would improve our lives emotionally, spiritually, creatively, and financially. The...