The Trust—Control Dynamic

The Trust—Control Dynamic

Many of us have trust issues and are control freaks. Have you ever thought about the connection or dynamic between control and trust? Or more specifically, about how trust impacts our ability to let go of control? To be truthful, I hadn’t given...

Control and Impermanence

One of the illusions about control is that many of us believe we can significantly alter or impact the natural flow of things, or as I like to say, “life’s natural currents.” This is why our friends or loved ones may refer to us as control...

The Trust–Control Dynamic

Have you ever thought about the connection or dynamic between control and trust?   Or more specifically, about how trust impacts our ability to let go of control?  To be truthful, I hadn’t given it much thought until I read and successfully...

Finding Serenity

As the author of Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I am sometimes asked what I mean by “serenity.” I realize that serenity means different things to different people.    For many, it means peace and tranquility.   For others, it means...

Losing Control, Finding Flow

We often hear people talk about “going with the flow” when discussing  how they intend to deal with important issues and challenges in their lives.   I think for most, that means they wish to engage matters as they naturally arise, without...

Kobe Bryant Admits His Control Mentality Disrupts the Lakers

This past month has been an extremely disappointing time for the world champion Los Angeles Lakers.  They not only lost big to their prime time opponents, the Miami Heat, but to decidedly weaker teams as well.   Following a recent lopsided loss...